As each day passes, I feel more confident about my role as a mom. B and I have a great routine that works for us. Although, while I navigate through this first year, it is very easy to get caught up in all things baby. At times I have put baby before everything else in my life and I would be perfectly content being at home just me and baby 24/7. But I am more than just a mother.
Finding that balance between your entire universe revolving around this new little creature and your previous life is not easy for everyone. I started (maybe selfishly) with myself. I threw myself back into CrossFit the moment I could after baby. That hour away from everyone, where I could focus on just me, really helped me get through those early months (which mainly due to lack of sleep and hormone imbalance) are the toughest in my opinion. I also joined a book club. When Bennett took naps and I just couldn’t hack cleaning any more dishes, I curled up on the sofa and got lost in a book. Its not even the end of April and I am already on book 5 (more books than I have read in the last two years!!). It is such a small change, but its something just for me.
It then dawned on me, that D had very quickly become second to Bennett and I needed to work on that. Its tough when a husband/partner is independent and a baby is not. Shifting my focus has become easier as Bennett gets older. We can put him to bed a bit earlier so D and I can still enjoy some of the evening together and we are making the time to go out together. I think making time for your significant other is important, not just for you but for your kids too. D and I have finally found our groove and we now feel like a family unit rather than mom and baby vs dad.
The final piece to the puzzle is girl time. I love Bennett and I love D, but I still need my girls. I went on my first over night play date before Bennett was even 6 weeks old. Having a night for me and only me was the best. Not only to catch up on some much needed sleep in those early weeks, but to feel like me again!!
Your life now certainly revolves around baby, but mom time is just as important, for the mental health for you and for your family. How do you fit in mom time?
Until next time day dreamers!
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